I confess.
In life, I haven’t always been me. Probably because being yourself can sometimes be difficult because you do change quite a lot over the years. Your personality changes can be subtle or drastic but either way, most of the time they come as a reaction to changes in your environment, changes in your life. It is the changing environment that dictates your personal changes. And dictating is way too much, if you are in control of yourself it should, at the most, only influence you. But the dictating seems to be happening to most people, if not nearly all, so nothing to be ashamed of but surely something to be aware of! What makes things a bit more complicated is the simple fact that we have so many different roles to fulfill: husband, father, son, brother, employee/employer, friend, team member … The way you shape each of these roles will show different aspects of your personality, but they should always reflect who you truly are. It is something that we could expect to come naturally but that is not always the case. It took me a while to realize that the moment I became a network marketing entrepreneur, I started off by making a big mistake. A mistake that deep inside gave me an awkward feeling, but I couldn’t pinpoint for myself what it was until only after way too long, it suddenly dawned on me: all that time I haven’t been me! I was trying to be someone else, I was pretending to the world and to myself that I was an alter ego of the successful people I used as a mentor. I learned from their trainings and podcasts, but I was mimicking people that were, for now, out of my league. Probably guided by the fact that everything in network marketing should be duplicatable, I duplicated them. Completely. Literally, and I literally mean “literally”. Although the intention or the message was 100% in line with what they have taught me, the words were not mine. The words did not have my flavor, did not have my personal energy and intent. It was not me who wrote them and shared them. It was not mé. Í was not me. Hence the related response I received to my posts. Or in fact, lack of any response! That insight made me have a good look at myself and threw me back to my days as a teenager. The result of being tall and at the time skinny, wearing big glasses resting on a bigger-than-average nose was a classical breeding ground for lack of self-confidence. Also, if not especially, towards girls. So, I started acting like a not-skinny type and started dressing like I was a body-builder-in-the-making. All in a desperate attempt to attract girls that I shouldn’t even try to attract in the first place. The girls’ response? Try to visualize bales being blown across a dessert with the sound of crickets in the background. Yep, you've got the picture. So, getting tired of putting in all that energy in something that brought me nothing, I gave up pretending to be someone else and I started acting like me, dressing like me, talking and walking like me. Í was finally mé! The girls’ response? A fairytale. Simply by being myself I attracted the girls that I should attract, the girls that were a fit for who I was. For the rest of my teenager years I ended up with having the luxury of choice! I could choose who I wanted to spend time with, who I wanted to love and show my affection to, who I wanted to take part in my life, who I wanted to share my thoughts and feelings. That flashback turned out to be a supporting trigger for getting The Happy Dadpreneur going. Not for the concept, but for the approach. By sharing my thoughts, in my language, I will not, I cannot and I do not want to, attract everyone and anyone anymore. But I will attract the type of people that I want to attract. The type of people that I can bring value to. The type of people that I would like to work with. The team members with whom I want to share success and failures for years to come. This is ME and if you are YOU, let me know in the comments! Upwards and onwards – The Happy Dadpreneur
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